Expert answers on how to help a child do a family history interview with Grandma or Grandpa.
A Family Tree Magazine reader wrote in, asking, "My daughter has to interview her grandparents for a school project. Do you have any suggestions for questions she can ask?"
only do assignments such as this one bring families closer, they’re
also a great way for kids (and their parents!) to learn about their
family history and history in general. And a reticent subject may be more likely to open up when the interviewer is a grandchild.
These questions can also be asked of any relative.
Here are some questions to get you started:
- When and where were you born?
- What were your parents’ names?
- What is your happiest memory of your father? Your mother?
- What is the most important lesson your parents taught you?
- What are the names of your grandparents?
- What is your happiest memory of your grandfather? Grandmother?
- Where did you grow up?
- What did you do for fun as a child?
- How did you like school?
- What did you want to be when you grew up?
- Tell me about your first date.
- How did you meet Grandma/Grandpa?
- Tell me about the day my mom/dad was born.
- What advice would you give to new parents?
- What jobs have you had?
- What are your strongest memories from your time in the military?
- What would be your recipe for happiness?
Bring the family closer together through family interviews
and your daughter can edit the list together based on the length of the
interview, what your daughter wants to ask about, and any
project requirements (for example, her teacher may want her to focus on
topic such as military service).
Your daughter may want to jot
down significant historical events that occurred during her
grandparents’ lives, such as the Great Depression or the day President
Kennedy was assassinated. Then she can ask about them with a question
such as, “What’s your most vivid memory of growing up during the Great
If she’s been learning about the Great Depression
in school, she’ll see how it affected everyday people and maybe even
find herself an answer to that perennial question, “Why do we have to
She also might be interested in how her
grandparents’ childhoods compare to her own: Did they have similar
hobbies? What chores did they have to do around the house? How did they
like their brothers and sisters?
If you ask it, the answers will come
a question list as a guide, but it’s OK if the
conversation leads your daughter to ask questions not on the list, or
her grandparents to tell stories not related to a particular question.
Looking at old family photos may spark her grandparents' memories, too.
(Find more oral history interviewing tips on FamilyTreeMagazine.com
sure you record the interview for posterity (and in case your daughter
needs it for a report) using a digital voice recorder or an app on your smart phone.
You can discover more stories from your family's older generations with Stories From My Grandparent
, a fill-in book with prompts for grandparents, by Susan Adcox. It's available from ShopFamilyTree.com.