The belief that July is an unlucky month for weddings is a superstition that has endured for generations. It’s origins can be traced to several old, anonymous rhymes that warn couples married in July of everything from bitter-sweet memories to laboring for daily bread!
“Married in July with flowers ablaze, bitter-sweet memories in after days.”
“Those who in July do wed, must labour for their daily bread.”
“A July bride will be handsome, But a trifle quick-tempered.”
“July marriages are apt to be crisscrossed with sunshine and shadow.”
Are there other unlucky months?
While these old sayings are certainly ominous, July actually isn’t the worst month to wed. According to folklore as well as ancient Roman tradition, the title of unluckiest month to get married goes to May. While July weddings promise some troubles in the future, May weddings are sure to end in regret!
“Marry in the month of May, you will surely rue the day.”
This superstition could have originated with the ancient Romans, who celebrated the festival of Lemuria during the month of May. Lumeria was a time for mourning and honoring the dead, so it was likely considered a bad omen to marry during a time when you should be honoring the deceased!
Another (more blatant) origin for this superstition can be seen in this 1840 article on French wedding superstitions:
“… they frankly say upon the subject, that it is not suitable to marry at a period when the asses are amorous.”
So what is a lucky month to get married?
For those suspicious brides- and grooms-to-be, the best month to get married is June. June is named for the goddess Juno, wife of Jupiter and goddess of marriage. It is said that Juno watched over the women of Rome and that those who married in June would have her favor on their marriages. This tradition has endured to our modern era where June is still considered one of the best months to marry. After all, as the saying goes,
“Married in the month of roses – June – life will be one, long honeymoon!”
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